the march fever is over, and now, we're entering into a new month. or rather, we've entered the new month- APRIL!! ok larx, the month did not start well for me. but never mind larx. it'll be fine right? (:
actually there have been a lot of things that i can update but i'm just pure lazy to do so. but well, things will be fine larx hor. (:
and to me, you're just perfect.. too good to be true.
_____________________________________________________________ i'm filled with a lot of thoughts and i just dont know where to start. so pardon me if i get too jumpy, on the topic that is. its been a long time since i gave a really good post of my thoughts and not just on the everyday life thing. whenever i look through my posts, i just feel so superficial. but i guess, i cant just conclude it this way too, since they're all part of what happened to me larx. yup.
you know friendships, i think they're a very huge part of everybody's life. or at the very least, to the younger ones. because as i look at the life of many adults, mainly our parents, as they get older, they get more skeptical and you dont see them spending time with friends, or even hear them talk about friends. it seems really scary, the adult world that is. but i believe they were young once, and had friends like both you and i have, so what made them like that? is it once we leave the teenage years and enter into adulthood, everything just changes? that life is really about working and your family? i'm confused.
well, of course to have a family, who dont want right? but before we can even have a family, we must know how to cherish relationships, and not just your bf, husband/wife-to-be. it includes your current family, your friends, the people around you. and yes, even yourself. because if you dont know how to cherish yourself, love yourself, how in the world are you gonna cherish and love the people around us? that's impossible. many of times, we claim that we love this person, but how are you sure you love this person? like, yeah, i'm so in love with this person, but this person has to live up to who i thought this person is. then that's like controlling? i dont know. but firstly, who are we to expect this person to live up to who we think he/she is. shouldnt you love them for who they are and not the false impression you made on them? then you might complain that this person is no longer who they are already. but have it ever occured to you that you might have shifted your focus of who they are to who you want them to be? its always a two-way street never a one-way street.
actually i think, a lot of problem that is happening around us, they are all the cause of expectations. not that we shouldnt have any expectations, but that, i dont know, to me expectations are just a set of end-goals you have for either yourself or the other party. yes, of course its good, but as we set such expectations we should compare with our capability to do so shouldnt we? if we're insisting on such expectations on people that they cant attain, we just make both parties upset isnt it?
its really tiring hearing people making statements like "he/she wasnt like that last time", "why cant he/she look from my point of view" and all those jazz. you get what i mean right. i mean, if you can pin point all these about the other party, ever made yourself do that? you're not always right. but of course, you have the right to feel upset about how things are not going your own way, but that doesnt give you the right to put all these faults on the other party right? and yes, what i'm saying here doesnt mean you have to put all the faults on yourself in the future. but before you say anything or do anything that might cause both party to be upset, just spend a little more time to think through all these stuffs. yup. the best thing, is something one of my friend reminded me of, "dont think of what you should do, but rather think, what would jesus do."
so yup. its not just for bgr, but for any kind of relationships. setting up a family maybe your end goal for yourself, but dont force things to be where you think they should be, but rather let things flow in its own manner. dont think why bad things always happen to you, rather reflect on how things can be improved. and of course, when you place Him on first place, you would share thoughts from Him and you would definitely make better choice, better move.